One of the peculiarities of life is the way in which each of us engage in living, while Robert Bravery’s post, about the scourge that is Spam (go read it it’s full of good tips for thwarting spam), struck a nerve with me and will with most any blogger out there, it also started me thinking. The thought of having to purge my comment moderation queue has become quite too much for me to bear on most days. I mean if only we didn’t have this problem if only there was a solution that would fix it for us for good.
Everything will not run smoothly
Well honestly if we did find that solution. The chemical weapon for the spam that lurks round our blogging community. There’d be some new way the idle and uninventive would find to annoy us into submission. There is one reality, everything will not run smooth. There will always be threats to our blogging way of life. People just naturally want something for nothing and they’ll prey on anyone they can.
Being able to communicate with you is a gift, perhaps spam is a fair price
So while I value Robert’s post and useful advice I also started remembering when I just started out. Feel free to giggle, but when I started out blogging I was kind of happy when the filthy spammers found me. I mean if they could find me I must be doing something right. Knowing a little more about the dark arts of the spammers now I know that’s not exactly true. I mean those spammers could find a open space on bathroom cubicle door at a rock concert if it had a some page rank. (perhaps the spammers should start a search engine). But long before my face turned to a scowl at the site of corny joke, naked celebrities and the answer to all bedroom problems stuffed into a pill, I used to get a bit of a buzz. I dug in and said now I’m a blogger. I’m paying my dues. I still try and remember that, see the thing is even as Monetize Your Life goes from strength to strength and my readers increase along with it my spam, I’m still paying my dues. I’m thankful that I’m able to communicate with my readers and if the price of that is some spam so be it. With helpful posts by Robert and the rest of the blogging community at least I know I’ll be doing everything I can.
When Good Enough is Good Enough! Accept what is
When it comes to these irritations in life I think the answer is to find the enough that is enough. We will never get rid of all the frustration that is spam or anything else that intrudes on our lives. Whether it’s the overbearing boss or nosey neighbour. Should we ignore it, of course not. Our time is our own, our readers are our own, there’s no need to give up but once all available methods have been exhausted we need be able to let go and accept what is. These are realities in life that we cannot change. If we fight these realities, we empower them to affect our happiness, our self worth and our interactions with the world. When we simply accept them and embrace them look at the other side of their existence we allow them to inject value into our lives instead.
Why I love Spam
- My blog is fully functional I’ve received some spam!!!
- My blog is visible on the web, those pesky spammers found me. Yippee!
- Ok I’m not the only one that finds some of those corny jokes funny… ‘fess up
- Spam detection as an industry employs people, reduced unemployment is a good thing
- How awesome is it to find that one piece of “not spam” amongst the x-rated and pharmaceutical ads it’s kind of like finding a hundred bucks in pants you haven’t worn in ages
- Perhaps you really do need those special pills… It could happen… when it does, you’ll be happy all those helpful folks sent you their contact details
Perhaps taking the time to see the value in something you currently view as negative would help to improve the value you see in your life.
I’ve lost some of that reserve of energy I had. It is just so easy to be over run by the comfort and the routine but I’ve decided to stop. Yeah that’s right I’ve just decided to stop it in it’s tracks. That’s the beauty of it there are far more things in the world that will scare skid marks into your shorts than comfortable things. That’s probably why our minds hang onto those moments of comfort for so long, foregoing new experiences for the allure of unchanging blissful mediocrity.
If you want real and lasting change and deeply fulfilling life you’ve got to put yourself out there! You have to roll up your sleeves. I’ve learnt very little in my years on earth but I have learnt that fear exists only in your mind. Once you start with the doing your body gets involved very quickly catapults you through that layer of fear and excitement adrenaline and instinct take over. We are all survivors. We are all powerful. Thinking drains us of that power. Thinking stops us at the gate makes us doubt, makes us try when we should be doing. It makes us give up before when we’re moments from our goal.
People want change in their lives. We all want to achieve our goals and feel that focus in our daily lives. We all want to live longer happier richer goal focused lives. We all feel that need to fulfill that purpose that only you and I were placed on this earth to perform.
During the course of every single day, you and I each have 24 hours at our disposal and most of us do dispose of it! We send the carcass of each day off with meat still hanging off the bones. The next morning we wake up, moaning and groaning that yesterday just wasn’t satisfying. To quote Moose of that lovable Archie and his gang, “Duh!”. If you have 24 hours and you use none of them to get closer to your goals, your passion or that burning desire which drives you, guess what, you’re not going to get any closer to it. Get rid of all hope. Abandon all your dreams you are stuck with your current life for better or worse.
Try is nothing
‘Try is nothing, do or do not’ was originally uttered by that great philosopher Yoda and it’s wisdom has stuck with me for as long as I’ve started trying to accumulate wisdom. Now I put this up as my Gtalk status recently and got some nasty nasty comments. This mentality that trying is enough I find quite amusing. Try to my mind is a utterly and depressingly disempowering word. Try unpacks the power of my action and unloads it at the doorstep of fate and fortune. Try is self-defeating it allows the possibility of failure in. It’s a weak verb that sparks weak action.
Do or Do not
The most important reason for me, try is not enough! Unlike conventional wisdom suggests it’s not good enough to try. Trying to be a blogger is not the same as being a blogger. Trying to spend within your budget is not the same as staying within your budget. Only in our minds is trying enough. The real world doesn’t care that you’re trying to lose weight or trying to write a novel. We are judged by our actions. When we try something and it doesn’t work we need to try something else that’s what doing is about. Doing is knowing that trying is part of a process not the process. When we do we commit to do, we commit to the outcome of doing not the process.
When you focus on your goals do try everything you possibly can and don’t stop till you Do achieve your goal
A while back I discussed the Price of Perfection, as it related to my writing goals. Writing that post reminded me once more to find ways each day to reconnect with my passion for writing and for life if I want to achieve my goals. I have never been one to spend my time obsessing about my goals but it is important to internalize goals if we are to have any chance of achieving them.
You’re probably motivated by fear of failure
Without clearly defined goals I can guarantee you one thing. You are just as likely to achieve what you value as goals as you are to achieve what you don’t. That’s a 50% chance of failure right off the bat. Now I see you looking at me with pleading eyes, “please Michael can’t the glass be half full” I hear you cry. Ok for you I’m going to make the glass half full … Except now that I think about it, one of those thick books on my bookshelf is on NLP. Would you believe me if i told you that 9 out 10 people reading this post are motivated by what they don’t want not by what they do want and value. We are very literally running on auto-pilot away from our goals. The problem is all our goals and everything we value is on the far side of that mountain of fear and self loathing not in the other direction.
Your fear is your fuel
I see I’ve got you thinking now. To those shaking their fist at me, no I’m not a quack, in fact stay behind after class I have a note for your mother. The proof, as one of my best friend reminds me so often, is in the pudding. The majority of people on the planet today are living lives that are less than or equal to mediocre. Your life probably has a fair sprinkling of mediocre in it too. When you are not connected to your goals you are probably connected to your fears. Your fears are feeding your mediocrity, keeping your goals at arms length.
Passion is about values not value
It’s not about your bank balance, car or your salary. Mediocre is about how well you are living. How closely your life, goals and your values are aligned. How proud are you when you speak about who you are, not about what you have? Any Yahoo with enough money can buy a shiny BMW. Only you can live a life that allows you to sleep soundly at night with a faint smile. Only you can figure out how to fall asleep secure in the knowledge that today you exercised your purpose achieved your goals on this planet and added value to the world.
These are some of the best ways I’ve found to integrate my goals with my life:
Spend at least 5 minutes a day dreaming
This tip is the most fun on the list, for each goal you are working toward spend part of your 5 minutes visualizing what achieving that goal will look like, smell, like, feel, sound like and what it will taste like. The more senses you call upon the better. Visualizing helps to make this possible future and achieved goals more real. Only when your dreams and goals exist in your minds eye completed and achieved will your body start taking the many steps toward them.
Leave yourself visual reminders of your goals
Put up post it notes with your goals on them. Write your goals in the margins or inside covers of your notebooks. Send yourself future dated e-mail reminding yourself to focus on your goals. Get software get posters get crayons if you want just get creative with remembering your goals. The only way these reminders of your goals will work is if they can knock you out of our stupor during your normal work day.
Tell your friends
Speak about your passions and goals often. Tell your friends tell strangers tell your cat. The more you involve other people the more committed you force yourself to be to your goals. All the poor people you tell will become walking breathing reminders of your commitment to your goals and the fact that your name is on the line. Always remember though your goals are for you. So use the livestock around your cubicles and the love of your friends and family to your advantage for a change.
Spend your free time reading about people who exhibit the values you wish to have. Find people who have succeed in areas you desire success. The exercise will teach you how how it’s done also you’ll learn from the mistakes from others. The most powerful lesson I take from research is that it is possible. How empowering is that statement? It is possible! As soon as you allow that thought into your life a lot of excuses disappear like manure in the sun.
The only way to achieve your dreams is to live your goals. Use these techniques and any others you come across to incorporate your goals in your living.
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Admit your failures, take credit for them, embrace them, and own them. When you willingly take responsibility and ownership even for the failures, you’re positioned for magnificent success.—Ralph Marston
How empowering is that statement? Let’s look at it again.
Admit your failures, take credit for them, embrace them, and own them. When you willingly take responsibility and ownership even for the failures, you’re positioned for magnificent success
That statement is practically overflowing with Action and Passion. All that about failure ? Until we are able to look ourselves in the mirror and own ourselves. Look into our own eyes at our imperfections of body and action and say that’s me. That is me now. Until we can do that we will never be in control of our lives, our time or our wealth.
We’ll continually act ignoring what our reality is. Acting on what we wish to be true.
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